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Many parents remark that the best conversations they have with their teens take place in the car, but they don’t always know how to get the ball rolling. Car Questions are “ice breakers” that can lead to deeper discussions of self-esteem, family dynamics, and hopes and dreams. A new question is posted in the worship bulletin every Sunday. See our list below for previous questions.

When asking one of these questions, try fueling the conversation by asking follow-up questions. “Why?”, “What made you think of that?”, “Is that a different answer than you would have given last year?” are good examples. Also be sure to share your answers! The idea is to create dialogue and help our children learn to be good question-askers, too.


“People who refuse to admit their mistakes can never be successful. But if they confess and forsake them, they get another chance.” Proverbs 28:13 Take turns explaining why you think it’s important to admit our mistakes instead of trying to ignore them.

Often when we connect with nature, we feel closer to God. So, how do you feel in and on the water? Does it refresh you to swim? Calm you to paddle board? Exhilarate you to sail? Where is God in all of this? Or, does water make you nervous? And where is God in all of that?

“I can take my telescope and look millions of miles into space, but I can go to my room and in prayer, get nearer to God in heaven that I can when assisted by all the telescopes of earth.” – Sir Isaac Newton    Share a time when you felt especially close to God.

President Kennedy once said that the definition of happiness is “The full use of your powers along lines of excellence.” If that’s true, what is your source of joy?

“I’ve conquered an empire, but I’ve not been able to conquer myself.” —Peter the Great What have you not been able to conquer?  Using only one positive word, describe everyone present.

“Genius is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration.” -Thomas Edison
Share a time you worked hard at something and achieved a goal. How did you feel?

Who did you see being a leader today? What makes a good leader?

Describe an event that changed the course of your life.

Have everyone present share what they think is the best trait about you. Take turns doing this for everyone present.

If you could only travel one way for the rest of your life, which mode of transportation would you choose? (Flying, walking, sailing…)If you could eliminate one animal from the world, which would you choose? Alternately, if you created one, what would it be like?

If you had to have one piece of music stuck in your head for eternity, which would you pick?

If you could make a sequel to any movie you’ve ever seen, which would you choose?

If you could be any living sports figure, who would you want to be?

If you could choose one symbol for your family crest, what would it be and why?

If you were going to give an award to someone, who would it be, which award, and why?

If you could, in retrospect, add one thing to your childhood, what would it be?

If you could go back in time, as yourself, to live for one year at any point in history, what year would you choose, and where would you go?

If you could spend one year looking for one thing in the world, what would you search for?

If you could relive a single day from your past exactly as it was the first time, what day would you choose to experience all over again?

The three kings traditionally bring gold, frankincense, and myrrh to Jesus. What would you bring if you went with them? What does it look like to give a gift to Jesus today, when we can’t literally meet him?

What’s the purpose of making New Years resolutions?

Which Christmas carol do you like best? Which do you think captures best what Christmas means to you?

If you could be instantly fluent in another language, which would you choose?

What is the most wonderful part of this most wonderful time of year? Which part is the most frustrating and what do you do with those feelings?

If you could create a brand new animal to live on Earth, what would you create?

How do you show appreciation for people and events? What makes you feel most appreciated?

If you could suddenly possess an extraordinary talent in one of the arts, what would you like it to be?

Leah Romanelli, John White, and Steve Tamayo spent 26 hours in the car this past week driving to and from the camp school that Steve leads at the Dakota Access Pipeline protest. If you spent 26 hours in the car, what would you listen to or watch? They need recommendations for next time…Also, what’s your opinion about the pipeline? Which do you think are the best news sources? Do you feel like you understand both sides of the protest?

Supporting the church involves much more than pledging a specific amount of money each year. We should also think through how we want to live out being the church together and how we participate in that process.  What does it look like for you to “do church”? Where will you spend your time and energy? How will you volunteer? How will you participate in learning activities? Which activities will encourage your heart and your faith to grow?

All Saints Day is about celebrating the people who have gone before us. Who are you most grateful for who’s gone before you? Who do you miss most? What about them made them special to you? Celebrate their memories this week and reflect on the ways they’ve changed our lives.

If you could have stopped aging at any point in your life up to the present, how old would you want to remain?

Church is an all-sensory experience. What are your favorite sounds you hear at church? What sounds in the world give you joy?

Church is a full sensory experience. Which smells do you associate with church? Which smells in the world make you happy?

Past Car Questions